These are my notes and thoughts, and are based on the book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R Covey. The notes may not make a great deal of sense on their own and are not a “summary” of the book – you will need to read the book yourself. I found it a very useful model.
Changing attitudes and behaviours is difficult if major change is occuring (personality ethic). Need to see things differently (character ethic) – this separates thinking from personality/behaviour attitudes.
“Be the change you want”
Principles of human existence
- Principles (the “territory”) are not practices or values (“maps”). Develop a Trust Climate.
- “Borrowing strength” from a higher level builds weakness. Need listening, patience, understanding of where others are coming from.
- Teaching when emotional change is present can seem like judgement or rejection – there are times not to teach.
- Possession needs to come before sharing > the value of giving yourself.
- Principle centred
- Character based
- Inside out
“You’re going to reap just what you sow”
|Sow a thought||Reap an action|
|Sow an action||Reap a character|
|Sow a character||Reap a destiny|
ie: our character is a composite of our habits
The maturity continuum
A balance between production P and production capabilityPC
(cf the goose who laid the golden egg)
So caring less what others think about you opens you to caring more about other people.
We are free to choose our actions based on the knowledge of our principles but are not free to choose the consequences of our actions
Source: The 7 habits of highly effective people – Stephen R Covey.