Stroking- Some need more strokes than others
- Games grow from stroke hunger
- Can get strokes from reliving previous experiences
- Need strokes every day
- Come as the result of relationships – relationships require that time is given to them
Giving strokes
- Marshmallow throwing – may be too much (and may be our agenda)
- Awareness – love starts with seeing the others child after handling our own agenda through trackdown
Forms of stroking
- Eye contact
- Listen
- Ask questions
- Use names (name signposting)
- Give yourself away
- Give your name
- Take a risk with theirs
- Be a rewarder – do it now!
- Write to people
- Plan
- Don’t allow discounting
- Don’t be ignored
- Recognise others have a point of view
- Loosen up
- Doers do, tryers try
- Don’t have too many intentions – actually do one or two