“People make the best choices they can at any given moment, given their present
model of their world?”
"Human beings have a peculiar trait; if they find something they do doesn't
work, they do it again!"
"If what you're doing isn't working, do something different."
"The meaning of any communication is the response that you get. If you're not
getting the
response, change what you're doing.”
“In any system, including human ones, the element with the widest range of
variability will be the one that determines the outcome."
“Keep asking
How are you doing that?
How do you know?
How can you clearly understand the patient's model of the world, and how it got
to be that way."
"Process is more important than content. If you alter the content, change takes
for ever."
"Problems have much more to do with process, with the way experience is organised
and
structured. If you can change the organising process, you can change outcome
more easily,
more quickly and more enduringly. Therapy means change."
"To be a good communicator, you need 3 things.
First, to know what outcome you
want.
Second, you need maximum flexibility in your own behaviour.
Third, you
need to be able to notice, fully and accurately, the responses you are getting?”
"Somewhere inside most people are the resources they need to overcome most
problems. Therapy locates and then re-locates them."