Impotence means not being able to have or keep an erection for long enough to have sexual intercourse. Approximately one man in 10 over the age of 40 is impotent whether they have diabetes or not. It affects both heterosexual and homosexual men. If you are one of these men, you are not alone. Impotence may affect over 50% of men with diabetes and over 75% of men over the age of 70 with diabetes have some degree of impotence. All men experience failure to achieve an erection at some time in their lives and this problem increases with age for all men. However, there is a wide range of treatments available and many people who can help you.

What causes impotence?

Impotence may have physical or psychological causes or a mixture of the two.

Impotence affects both people in a relationship. You may feel embarrassed, frustrated and guilty. Your partner may feel angry and rejected. Talking to your partner can lead to more understanding about how you both feel about this problem, helps you to improve the situation and decide if you want to take further action.

How do I find professional help?

You should first discuss this with your GP (family doctor) or your diabetes specialist if you have one. They have previous experience in advising about impotence and may be able to help you themselves. If not, you may be referred to a specialist in your area. You can also ask for a referral. You may go to see a urologist (a doctor who specialises in the kidneys, bladder, prostate and genitals), or a physician who perhaps has a particular interest in diabetes, or a sexual therapist/psychologist.

What happens when I am assessed?

It will be helpful if you and your partner can both be involved during your assessment with both of you being prepared to discuss your situation in order to put together a full medical and sexual history. You may have some or all of these tests

What treatments are available?

Impotence is now much better understood than in the past. Help is available for you and your partner to find a way round this problem.